Marriage pressure is real especially if you are a Nigerian woman past 30. It is almost as if society holds a secret meeting every weekend just to discuss why you're still single. And Last to Marry doesn’t just talk about this pressure; it drags it into the light with humor, raw emotion, and deep truth.
Our leading lady, Abidemi Durosimi, is a 33-year-old Christian woman with standards. Yes, standards!
She wants a God-fearing, hardworking, and attractive man, three-in-one! But as the opening scene hilariously shows, this seems to be a problem.
Four men pop their balloons (literally) at a matchmaking event as soon as she walks in. Why? She doesn’t fit their spec. One even mutters that her expectations are "delulu".
"At 33, you want to be celibate after giving to other men?"
"You are just fat. You don't fit into the shape I want my woman to have."
Imagine!? However, before we start a Twitter thread about the audacity of men, plot twist. It was just a dream! But honestly, wasn’t it a perfect metaphor for real life? To make matters worse, her African mother is constantly on her case,
"You’re still sleeping? Is that how you will behave in your husband’s house? No wonder you’re not married!"
"Is this how you will behave in your husband's house?"
Can you relate?
Now, Abidemi has a crush on BA, her boss. And in her state of delulu, she assumes he likes her too but is just holding back because… professionalism.
He is handsome, God-fearing, successful, tongue-speaking, and kind, basically, the prayer request many sisters are fasting for. But before she can even make her move, BA casually introduces her to the love of his life.
Yep, friend-zoned. She exits the scene - single once again.
At this point, frustration kicks in, and she takes it straight to God.
"Lord, I have been faithful! I stayed single in my teens while others were dating. I served You. I honored You. Yet, no admirers, no prospects. God, do something! I must meet my husband THIS WEEK and get married before I turn 34 if You are truly God!"
Whew. We felt that. But does it happen? Let’s find out.
She met Amata, a Christian, tongue-speaking, kind, handsome man. Check, check, check. Infact, God had revealed to him in a vision that she was the one. But wait.. serious anger issues.
At first, Abidemi convinces herself she’s just being sensitive. Maybe she provoked him? But after multiple fights, ghosting sessions, emotional abuse, and even being called old cargo, the red flags are no longer flags. They are billboards.
By this time, an old secondary school senior, Adetunji also known as TJ, enters the picture. Now, TJ is everything she wants in a man except for two things: He is married and he is a Muslim. But honestly, compared to these so-called Christian men with zero character, TJ is looking like a saint. So, what’s the verdict?
Abidemi seeks counsel, hoping to get clarity. And she asks her mentor: "Do I go for a man of God that lacks character or a man that isn’t a man of God but has good character?"
Her mentor, instead of picking a side, drops a bombshell. What about singleness? No, not as a punishment. Not as a waiting room. But as a gift. Do you want to marry now, or do you want to marry well?
That hits differently.
And suddenly, Abidemi sees things clearly. She walks away from both men, choosing not to settle out of desperation.
Instead, she holds on to the truth that sin is not just wanting bad things, but wanting good things badly. Her singleness doesn’t mean her life isn’t beautiful. And while she is still hopeful for her own happy ending, she refuses to move in pressure and desperation.
So, dear reader, what’s your take-home?
Last to Marry isn’t just about marriage pressure. It is about the choices we make under that pressure. It speaks of standing firm in our values, even when society screams otherwise. It is trusting that God's timing isn't just perfect but absolutely worth it.
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